Why I Don’t Always Like Sharing My Home on the Blog

After the house was featured on Houzz recently, it took me quite a while to read all the comments. You might think, that because I write this site and share on social media a lot, I should be comfortable with the exposure as well as positive and negative comments. But until very recently I had rarely shared photos of our home, for various reasons, mainly that it makes me uncomfortable.

Dining roomThe attic conversion last year gave me the opportunity to share a house renovation with readers and followers, which didn’t feel too invasive either. Maybe this was because our house had become a workplace to the builders, but once it was complete and the house once again became our home, I did find it tricky sharing the completed posts. It is our home, the place where we take sanctuary and create a family and make memories. It’s not always a space I want to share with the public through the blog, and I’m often concerned what people might think about it.

KitchenIt’s not perfect. It’s a real family home. There is chipped and flaking paint, dirty hand prints on walls, broken cupboards and stained carpets. When people mentioned on the Houzz article that the kitchen is dated, I kind of wanted to shout, well yes, we’ve just spent a year renovating the attic, and whilst the kitchen is 10 years old, we’ve run out of money and inclination to do anything else! And that’s real; that’s what it’s like for most people. We saved for years to be able to afford the loft conversion, a new kitchen will have to wait.

We’re a busy family pursuing work and social commitments, so there isn’t always time to tidy up either. When I’m asked to photograph parts of my home for the blog or social media, I have to factor in the time it will take to clear the junk to allow me to do that. I don’t always have the time, or want to do it.

Tween bedroomWhy am I telling you all this? Well, partly it’s to showcase that my home is real, and not a showhome at all. We have two kids and family life is normal and messy. The house is messy a lot of the time, particularly the girls’ bedrooms. The tween daughter doesn’t allow anyone in any more and prefers to live in a mess. Her room didn’t get featured on the Houzz article! Her desk is cluttered, the floor is spattered with clothes and books, and sometimes it’s hard to push the door open past the piles of bags and ‘stuff’. She recently spilled several pots of nail varnish over her bedroom carpet, and later trailed splodges of red paint along our brand new stairs carpet too. Messy moments galore. Her bedroom carpet is ruined now and definitely needs replacing, but we may wait until she is prepared to be a little more careful – for now I’ll just buy a big rug.

I’m sure if you have children, you’ve had your fair share of messy moments in the home too. In the past mine have drawn on the walls with felt tips, a common event for many, as well as smeared everything imaginable over my glossy white coffee table. I think you just have to accept this is how it is when you have kids.

If, like us, the kids have ruined your carpets, Carpetright have a great giveaway to win £500 to spend on new flooring. You just have to share your messy moment with them and you could be the winner. You can enter the Carpetright Messy Moments competition HERE

Here’s to real homes and many more messy moments. Do you prefer to see a real home on a blog, or do you like something more perfect and aspirational?

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Jen Stanbrook
Jen Stanbrook

Jen is an award winning digital publisher and has been creating interiors and home decor content for over 10 years.
She has an insatiable love of home interiors, has worked with hundreds of brands, and currently supports many bloggers within the creative industries to share their expertise through writing.
She spends most of her time in her little garden office pod, has 2 daughters and 2 (fighting) cats.

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  1. Ellie Carroll
    April 22, 2016 / 11:25 am

    I totally understand you. I appreciate your honesty, I also share that saying: My home is my castle.

  2. Emma Rogerson
    April 22, 2016 / 12:15 pm

    It’s really refreshing to read a ‘real’ home blog Jen. Yes blogs should be inspirational but it makes us all feel better to see a bit of real life!!

  3. Rose
    April 22, 2016 / 1:23 pm

    You have a beautiful home and I really enjoy reading your posts and DIY ideas. However, I totally support your choice of not revealing more of your home in here. It’s not the pictures that make your blog cool – it’s the ideas you share with us. 🙂

  4. rachel
    April 22, 2016 / 2:31 pm

    Another great article Jen, we all strive for show homes, (personally I would love “Harveys’ NY apartment on the show “Suits”), however each week our freshly cleaned house lasts all of the 10 minutes from when its tidied and cleaned to when it’s time for tea, or the kids get home from school – that is just life, and to be honest I prefer it to be that way. A life full of kids, friends, laughter and mess (including hand prints and yes we have had the nail varnish incidence too grrr) instead of perfectly placed ornaments and coffee table books that we only get time to read once in a lifetime on pristine furniture that has never seen a pet, child or wine spilt on it!.

  5. Jane Taylor
    April 23, 2016 / 9:59 am

    Even after our big extension makeover there are parts of our house that are in need of a lick of paint and a spruce up. A house is to be lived in. It is not supposed to simply be for show. From what I have seen you have a lovely home and I really enjoy reading about your home inspiration ideas.


  6. LindaLou
    April 25, 2016 / 12:44 am

    Can imagine that’s difficult for you to share the privacy of your house. Especially when you get some negative comments. I like it a lot better though to see a real home which shows that people are living in it. I think you have a beautiful house!

  7. Molly at Roost
    April 25, 2016 / 9:30 pm

    Oh gosh I LOVE this post Jen! Our house is the same and I often feel the same about sharing parts of it on the site or Instagram etc. I love interiors but the reality of family life is that decorating takes a while (unless you have a big budget to pay other people to do it all) and it takes money too. Love the realness of this post.

    • Jen Stanbrook
      April 27, 2016 / 3:11 pm

      Thanks so much Molly, yep that’s exactly it. By the time I’ve tidied up sometimes for a few blog photos I’m exhausted and run out of energy!

  8. Molly
    April 27, 2016 / 5:25 pm

    It’s lovely seeing your home, and people should not be so mean to comment on your ‘dated’ kitchen (feeling sensitive myself about this as I have pretty much the same one!) when your house is so nice and yes, a real family home. I guess I like seeing something aspirational – a real family home but a tidied-up real family home – for there to be enough reality to know that there must be some mess behind the scenes, but what you can show is potentially achievable and therefore aspirational (hope that makes sense!).

  9. Susmita
    May 6, 2016 / 1:19 pm

    You have really a nice and beautiful house mam. But, I understand your words and honesty. However, you have such an amazing personality.

  10. David
    July 31, 2017 / 4:48 pm

    Yes i agree. Its your and your families home first and last. I like your honesty. I am the same regarding my home.

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