After the house was featured on Houzz recently, it took me quite a while to read all the comments. You might think, that because I write this site and share on social media a lot, I should be comfortable with the exposure as well as positive and negative comments. But until very recently I had rarely shared photos of our home, for various reasons, mainly that it makes me uncomfortable.
The attic conversion last year gave me the opportunity to share a house renovation with readers and followers, which didn’t feel too invasive either. Maybe this was because our house had become a workplace to the builders, but once it was complete and the house once again became our home, I did find it tricky sharing the completed posts. It is our home, the place where we take sanctuary and create a family and make memories. It’s not always a space I want to share with the public through the blog, and I’m often concerned what people might think about it.
It’s not perfect. It’s a real family home. There is chipped and flaking paint, dirty hand prints on walls, broken cupboards and stained carpets. When people mentioned on the Houzz article that the kitchen is dated, I kind of wanted to shout, well yes, we’ve just spent a year renovating the attic, and whilst the kitchen is 10 years old, we’ve run out of money and inclination to do anything else! And that’s real; that’s what it’s like for most people. We saved for years to be able to afford the loft conversion, a new kitchen will have to wait.
We’re a busy family pursuing work and social commitments, so there isn’t always time to tidy up either. When I’m asked to photograph parts of my home for the blog or social media, I have to factor in the time it will take to clear the junk to allow me to do that. I don’t always have the time, or want to do it.
Why am I telling you all this? Well, partly it’s to showcase that my home is real, and not a showhome at all. We have two kids and family life is normal and messy. The house is messy a lot of the time, particularly the girls’ bedrooms. The tween daughter doesn’t allow anyone in any more and prefers to live in a mess. Her room didn’t get featured on the Houzz article! Her desk is cluttered, the floor is spattered with clothes and books, and sometimes it’s hard to push the door open past the piles of bags and ‘stuff’. She recently spilled several pots of nail varnish over her bedroom carpet, and later trailed splodges of red paint along our brand new stairs carpet too. Messy moments galore. Her bedroom carpet is ruined now and definitely needs replacing, but we may wait until she is prepared to be a little more careful – for now I’ll just buy a big rug.
I’m sure if you have children, you’ve had your fair share of messy moments in the home too. In the past mine have drawn on the walls with felt tips, a common event for many, as well as smeared everything imaginable over my glossy white coffee table. I think you just have to accept this is how it is when you have kids.
If, like us, the kids have ruined your carpets, Carpetright have a great giveaway to win £500 to spend on new flooring. You just have to share your messy moment with them and you could be the winner. You can enter the Carpetright Messy Moments competition HERE
Here’s to real homes and many more messy moments. Do you prefer to see a real home on a blog, or do you like something more perfect and aspirational?